I hurt when I see marriages falling apart. My heart breaks for Jon and Kate, and the many, many others who are dealing with similar issues in their marriages. It's easy to point a finger and blame one spouse or the other, but what good does that do? NONE!
I can remember back to high school, when our pastor talked about the main causes of divorce. At that time, the two main causes sited were sex and money. Couples often complain about both, and it's either too much or not enough of them. Sadly, it looks like it may have hit Jon and Kate as well.
I'm not putting the full blame on Kate (as many in the media are doing), but I have to wonder if she has just gotten too caught up with the fame and money involved with the show. Money can change people, and it's not always for good. If you look back at the pictures taken when the show began, Kate doesn't even look like the same person.
On the other hand, Jon didn't seem to hate it too much. He isn't doing book tours, or dodging paparazzi, but he was there the entire time. A silent spectator in his own life. He admitted as much. He told us all that he has found his power again, and is trying to put his foot down. Well...good for you Jon, but it may be too late. It's kind of like raising kids. You can't let them do everything they want to do, never punish them for bad behavior and spoil them rotten for years and years and then wake up one morning and think, "I'm going to put my foot down now!" It just doesn't work that way.
But enough of my ramblings about the marriage of Jon and Kate. I can't make a fully educated observation. I wasn't there. In fact...no one was. It's between Jon and Kate. The cameras caught a glimpse, but we all know that editing has been done. And, in true form, media has taken what they want to see and hear, and made a story with it. My fear is that Jon and Kate are getting whisked away in the drama created by fame, money, and celebrity.
I'm not one to give up easily when it comes to the what I feel is important in my life, and I can only pray that Jon and Kate won't give up either. They have an opportunity in front of them. They can be a gleaming example of how marriages that struggle can recover. Yes, people change over time. We can grow, from our experiences.
I guess you can count this as my plea to Jon and Kate:
Don't throw in the towel just yet. Don't let the media dictate your life. If your marriage is important to you, and I pray that it is, work together to try and mend the cracks. Seek out wise counsel. PRAY. Individually and together. I know that marriages sometimes end, but I truly believe that they can be mended as well.
God, give Jon and Kate the wisdom they need in the days to come. Strip away all of the chaos that comes with fame and celebrity. Bring them back to the basics of their marriage. Mend their hearts as well, as they have been hurt and have hurt each other. Protect the children from all of the venom that has been spewed through the media. Guard their hearts. And, God, I ask the same for all those who are in similar situations. Place your healing hands on the marriages of this country...of this world. All for Your glory. - Amen
